Monday, June 25, 2012

To Have or Not To Have Children?

Too Adorable!

For the past four and half years, I've battled with my indecisiveness on getting pregnant. Having children is definitely the most touchy subject between my husband and I. He didn't want kids right now and I was literally begging for them. I would even try to take him down the baby aisle at Wal-Mart, but he would always escape. Yep, my hubby is a ninja!

We're now reaching that 6th year mark in our marriage and I can honestly say, I do not want to get pregnant. I never thought I would say those words but the truth of the matter is I'm not ready. I'm so thankful that I married a man who stuck to his guns on this one instead of giving in to make me happy. Here are just a few reasons why I don't think I'm ready.

1. Freedom - I love being able to pick up and go whenever, stay out however long with the hubby, and sleep when I want and how long I want. Yes, this might seem selfish to some but I'm being honest. If I'm not ready to let go of this freedom I've enjoyed for almost 6 years, then I consider myself not ready.

2. Time - My husband and I are only in our early 30's. If we do decide later on to get pregnant, we have time. It's not like we're in our 60's regretting the fact that we never procreated. Lol! When the time is right, which isn't now, we will have some gorgeous babies :)

3. My health issues - I wrote a post earlier about my battles with depression and bipolar disorder. If I get pregnant, I have to get off my meds for the safety of the baby. I don't want to even imagine myself with my meds and hopped up on pregnancy hormones. Godzilla, anyone? Besides mental health, my physical health isn't anything to brag about either. So until things improve, I have my hands full dealing with these issues daily.

4. Don't want to share my husband - I know this sounds silly, but it's true! I love being the only person at the house to get his attention and affection. It's been this way since day one. I always joke around and say that if we had kids, I would knock them down trying to get to my husband first when he gets home from work. Of course I wouldn't do that for real, but you get the point. I've been told plenty of times by parents that the alone time just sort of fades away when you start bringing babies into the picture. Well, I'm not ready for that. Selfish? Maybe. Smart enough to know I'm not ready before popping out kids? I think yes!

Do you agree or disagree? Leave your comment below letting me know which one and why.



    Anyway, you're not being selfish. You're being smart. Enjoy your time with your husband. Once you have babies, you can't go back. Not that THAT is a bad thing, but there's nothing wrong with wanting to hold on to what you have now. :)

    1. Thanks for finding me! Haha:) I had to write this because some people act like once you say I do, a baby should pop out. They have no idea the struggles a couple may go through if one wants kids and the other does not. Life is a little easier now that my husband and I are on the same page. Thanks for your support :)